Desires of Husbands & Wives

Although everyone has three God-given inner needs (for love, significance, and security), God designed the husband to have a greater need for significance, while the wife is uniquely created with a deeper need for security. A crucial element in the marriage relationship is becoming aware of your partner’s desires and learning to meet them creatively. Philippians 2:4 says, “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

How Wives Fulfill Their Husbands’ Desires:

1. Admiration (Proverbs 31:23)
   1. Praise his positive character traits.
   2. Respect his burden of responsibility.
2. Domestic Support (Proverbs 31:27)
   1. Provide a peaceful home atmosphere.
   2. Manage the home efficiently.
3. Companionship (Mark 10:8)
   1. Develop mutual interests together.
   2. Learn to talk knowledgeably about your husband’s occupation.
4. Attractiveness (Proverbs 31:25)
   1. Develop inner beauty that earns respect.
   2. Display inner strength regardless of outward circumstances.
5. Sexual Fulfillment (1 Corinthians 7:4-5)
   1. Communicate your sexual desires.
   2. Give assurance that your husband is sexually adequate.

How Husbands Fulfill Their Wives’ Desires:

1. Affection (Song of Solomon 1:2; 2:6)
   1. Give hugs, kisses, cards, flowers, and gifts.
   2. Tell her how much you care for her.
2. Communication (Ephesians 4:29)
   1. Listen with concern and interest.
   2. Encourage and praise her positive character traits.
3. Honesty (Proverbs 24:26)
   1. Commit to total truthfulness.
   2. Share your true thoughts, feelings, and desires.
4. Financial Security (1 Timothy 5:8)
   1. Shoulder the financial responsibility.
   2. Prepare a budget together to plan for the future.
5. Commitment (Hebrews 13:4)
   1. Schedule quality and quantity time alone with her.
   2. Make your wife and family your highest earthly priority.

This is information I discovered from June Hunt, the founder and CEO of Hope for the Heart.